You Don't Have to Be A Victim!

An unhappy marriage. Unruly kids. A stressful job. Life can present many difficult and unsettling challenges that leave someone feeling victimized. Do any of the following apply to you?

• You wish someone else would change so that you don't have to
• You frequently feel sorry for yourself
• You find yourself blaming others - your boss, spouse, parents, friends, the County, and unfair world --for your misfortunes
• You often complain about your "lot" in life
• You believe others hold the power to change your life
• You believe you have no choices
• You wish someone else would rescue you from your problems
• You have lots of negative labels for yourself and for others
• You feel just plain stuck

If any of these conditions apply to you, seeing a counselor can help you get your life unstuck. But as long as you accept these conditions and believe that nothing will change things, then nothing will change.

A Counselor Can Help
Sometimes, the hardest part of the change process is changing the ways you think about yourself and others. The support of caring and empathetic counselor can make all the difference as you undertake the hard work of changing yourself.
What can a counselor do?

• Help you understand that you can only change yourself, not someone else. Oftentimes, this alone leads to improvement.
• Teach you strategies for assertively dealing with difficult personalities
• Open up your range of choices
• Gently confront your learned helplessness
• Examine your self-limiting beliefs
• Help you change the negative self-talk that keeps you feeling pessimistic and helpless
• Teach you strategies of self-encouragement while you pursue a path of change
• Help you to stop training others to take advantage of you
• Help you identify when you are in an abusive situation and offer survival strategies and resources

As a benefit of your employment, the EAP is confidential and at no cost to you. Employees can receive up to five (5) counseling sessions per year. The EAP office is conveniently located at 1885 The Alameda, Suite 211, San Jose.
 

For More Information Please Contact:

EAP
Phone: (408) 241-7772 (If feeling like a victim has hampered you and you are ready for a change, call your Employee Assistance Program (EAP) for an appointment. A licensed EAP counselor can help you learn how to lead a more empowered life.)